Dating after living together
" 25-year-old Lucy had a similar experience and discussed moving in with her boyfriend for a year before making the leap: “He was going to be moving to a new city, leaving his friends and family and changing jobs so it was a big deal,” she says, so they weren't going to rush into anything.
Lucy and her boyfriend had also been on holiday together, which is a good way to test a relationship: “Make sure you’ve been away together for an extended period of time (more than 10 days) before you give them a key, this way you can get a better insight into whether you can stand their living habits or not! For some people though, the hardest part is knowing how to broach the subject for the first time if you’re not sure how your boy- or girlfriend will react - research from Match says that on average, couples take a year and a half to ask one another to move in together.
There are certain milestones in relationships that every couple hits - from deciding to be exclusive and first acknowledging each other’s existence on social media to getting a dog and tying the knot.
But one of the biggest moves a couple can make is to move in together.
“I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for a year,” 24-year-old Emma explained to .
“We worked out how much we could afford, agreed on an area to move to, and just went for it! But Margot and her boyfriend have never lived just the two of them - they’ve always had flatmates too.Although the couple bickered for the first few weeks of living together, they eventually ironed out their differences and set clear boundaries and expectations: “We make sure that we split chores and are really open about when we’re annoying each other,” Margot says. Hannah Seligson, author of "A Little Bit Married" (Da Capo Lifelong Books, 2010), offers advice on how to know when it's time to discuss walking down the aisle or just calling it quits.And living with a partner isn't always smooth sailing - exclusive figures from E.
ON reveal that 10 per cent of couples argue about the washing up on a daily basis.Hannah Seligson: I think the prognosis depends on what you both want. Also, are you sure you want to be with someone who pulled away when you brought up the idea of getting married?